The term “friend” is over-used, watered-down, and practically meaningless in today’s Western society. Some people erroneously think that having someone click on a particular button or graphic means they are your friend. What insanity! In the cold, virtual world where so many spend their time, the true meaning of friendship is lost. I have no regard for hundreds or thousands who like my photos or words and would, in an instant, sell me to the highest bidder. No, I’ve learned that most who profess to be friends are not. They are just conveniently using one another for some selfish reason.
True friendship is having the other person’s interest at heart and acting upon that. It involves “having their back” but also being observant enough to know little things that would encourage them, make something easier for them, or just bring a smile to their face. A friend thinks of you when they see or hear something, and want to share it with you. They actually listen to you, not just waiting for their own turn to say something. True friends willingly and lovingly sacrifice for each other, whether that is sleep, time, money, effort, or whatever.
A friend shows his friendship at all times – it is for adversity that a brother is born. ~~ Proverbs 17: 17
Some “friends” pretend to be friends, but a true friend sticks closer than a brother. ~~ Proverbs 18: 24
Many years ago, I had this piece of advice given to me, and it is valid and true. “In order to have a friend, you have to BE a friend.” Unfortunately, the majority of what I’ve witnessed looks very different. Do you know of a situation where one “friend” will just take advantage of the friendship and not participate in a real way? I know someone who calls two long-distance friends regularly, but those friends never call him. He also thinks of them regularly and mails them things he knows they would like, just to brighten their day! As an experiment, he said that he stopped calling them to see if they would notice and reach out to him themselves. One of them did, but only after about 3 months! There are many other illustrations I could give, but you probably have plenty of examples yourself.
As distressing as this is, we should not be surprised. The Scriptures warn us that the love of many will grow cold in the last days. If you have one or two TRUE FRIENDS, consider yourself enormously blessed!
At that time many will be trapped into betraying and hating each other, many false prophets will appear and fool many people, and many people’s love will grow cold because of increased distance from Torah. ~~ Matthew 24: 10-12
But I have this against you: you have lost the love you had at first. ~~ Revelation 2: 4